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November 2021 - We Gather Together

11/1/2021

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​​Autumn sunlight sifts
Through willow leaves; an egret
Quietly descends
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​After more than two years of struggling with the Coronavirus and its various strains, we are once again hopeful for an end to this terrible public health menace. We are even hoping to gather with our families for the autumn and winter holidays, Thanksgiving, Christmas and the New Year. Meanwhile, 700,000 Americans died of this illness, and many families are still waiting to honor their lost loved ones. In my July 2020 blog, “A Memorial Tea,” I remembered my dear sister, Margaret Murdock Pedulla, who died on March 31 last year. I imagined hosting a tea in her honor, focusing on her favorite color, green, her favorite flowers and including her favorite tea-time treats, deviled eggs, Scottish shortbread and dark See’s candies.
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As it turned out, we were able to do even more. With the help of my co-author, Kathleen, who is Margaret’s daughter, along with the entire family and a team of Kathleen’s life-long friends, we created a beautiful outdoor memorial service for my sister followed by a festive reception in the yard of her family home in Watsonville, California. How did we manage this complex event for about fifty people? We did what is required for every successful large-group activity. We planned ahead and followed the simple guidelines listed below. All along our primary focus was on giving dear Margaret the most beautiful and heartfelt memorial service and the most joyful celebration of her life that we had the energy and imagination to produce.

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​In morning mist, gulls
Fly in from the coast, over
Pines and red maples.



​Visualize the Location and Scope of the Event and Start Planning Early

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​We decided to hold the memorial service in September when the weather was turning cool, all of us had been vaccinated and the California rainy season had not yet started. We chose Watsonville’s Pioneer Cemetery, an historic graveyard just a short walk down a steep hill from the Pedulla home as the site for the service and the interment of ashes. This decision inspired Kathleen to visualize a traditional family procession from home to the cemetery, and we all imagined the sound of bagpipes. The planning process had begun.
 
Create Detailed Lists
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​The memorial event was two separate but interconnected activities: the service in the cemetery and the reception at the nearby family home. Each required its own timeline and set of lists. The service required the design, printing and mailing of invitations, a program for the ceremony, meetings with the cemetery staff and hiring a bagpiper. A detailed food and beverage list was necessary for the reception, including inventories of seating arrangements, linens, dishes, silverware, and a meticulously planned menu. Kathleen is the queen of lists, and she masterminded most of the details just listed while I planned the ceremony itself. Needless to say, she did far more work on this project than anyone else and deserves all the credit.
 
Kathleen’s “Food and Beverage Layout Plan” will give you some insight into the careful thought she gave to every aspect of organizing and serving the elegant lunch that our guests enjoyed so much.
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​Enlist a Competent Team with Excellent Communication Skills

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​Fortunately, the Pedulla family, who have lived in Watsonville for nearly sixty years, are blessed with creative, capable and trustworthy friends. The majority of the food and drink for the reception was prepared or provided by the team of family and friends. Kathleen’s dear friend Peggy Sue Welch arranged all the flowers for the memorial service, others created center pieces for the lunch tables, set up chairs and a tent, served as ushers, and Kathleen’s friend Polly, a concert musician, played a Bach Sarabande at the memorial service.
 
Clearly Define the Tasks and Responsibilities of Each Team Member
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​We planned the cemetery service well in advance and enlisted various family members to speak or otherwise participate. Then we held a family meeting the night before the event to review the tasks of each participant, providing each with a folder containing specific instructions for his or her role at the service.
 
Kathleen followed a similar procedure for the reception, contacting each team member well in advance with a written copy of the menu and a detailed list of who was responsible for preparing or obtaining each item on the menu. Members of the team who were responsible for seating, table settings and so forth were given similar written instructions.

Pay Careful Attention to Long-Term and Short-Term Time Management
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​Obviously, selecting the day, time and location is the first step in planning a complex event, but last-minute details can be just as crucial. Kathleen developed the amazing, multi-cultural lunch menu for the reception months in advance, and I did the same for Margaret’s biography, the eulogy and the chronology of the memorial service. However, some of the most meaningful details were completed in the very last seconds before we changed into our black dresses and put on our pearls to begin the family procession to the cemetery.
 
Kathleen was up before dawn on the day of the service, baking the Irish Soda Bread, Margaret’s favorite, and then putting the Blackberry Cobbler in the oven. Meanwhile, I assembled the Cheddar and Chutney Tea Sandwiches, which needed to be as fresh as possible, just as Kathleen’s friend Kristen arrived to make the luscious Macaroni and Cheese from scratch and bake it along with the refrigerated Lasagna and the Baked Beans as the service at the cemetery was taking place. During this final hour, team members were also dispatched to pick up the two items that were purchased rather than home-made: hand-made spicy cheese and chili tamales and a glorious tray of ultra-fresh sushi.


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In a heroic example of careful long-range planning, Kathleen’s partner Isaac obtained a locally raised Four H Club pig donated by Peggy Reber, and transformed it into a glorious honey and mustard glazed ham. In a carefully timed last-minute effort, Margaret’s devoted daughter-in-law Tiffany, showed up with huge bowls of just-picked raspberries, strawberries and blackberries from her family farm to brighten the beautiful lunch buffet.

​​November’s half moon
Hangs over the house; the scent
Of quinces lingers.


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​We invite you to read and re-read Kathleen’s remarkably comprehensive multicultural menu, a marvel of California farm-to-table autumn cuisine. It produced a huge amount of food, served buffet style in three courses as Appetizers and Salads, Main Dishes and Desserts. There was truly something for everyone, and the guests were invited to take home leftovers. Katheen was going for the spirit of generous autumn abundance to honor her beloved mother, and she succeeded! I stayed with the Pedullas for a few extra days after the service, and we enjoyed fresh berries with vanilla-honey yogurt sauce every morning at breakfast and deviled eggs, ham and peanut noodles for lunch, all the while remembering Margaret with grateful hearts and living the joy of a harvest festival.
 
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​On Thanksgiving, the
Wind from the ocean pours rain
On the pumpkin field.




​Kathleen’s Memorial Reception Menu

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Drinks:
Beer, Wine, Whiskey, Punch, Martinelli’s Sparkling Cider, Coffee, Tea, Cucumber Water
 
Appetizers:
Isaac’s Salsa and Pickled Okra, Guacamole and Chips
Antipasto Platter: cheeses, meats, olives, crackers, crudites, baguette
Kathy Lathrop’s Broccoli Spread
Kathleen’s Shrimp Ceviche
Irish Soda Bread with Irish Butter
Deviled Eggs
Sushi Platter
 
Salads:
Asian Peanut Noodles
Thai Green Bean Coleslaw
Potato Salad
 
Main Dishes:
Chili and Cheese Tamales
Baked Beans
Pulled Pork with Barbecue Sauce
Chutney and Cheese Tea Sandwiches
Isaac’s Honey Mustard Ham with Rolls for Ham Sliders
Kristen’s Macaroni and Cheese
Kathleen’s Spinach Lasagna
 
Desserts:
Fresh Strawberries, Raspberries and Blackberries with Honey-Vanilla Yogurt Sauce
Raspberry and Peach Trifle
Blackberry Cobbler
Red Velvet Bundt Cake with Cream Cheese Icing
Rose’s Triple Espresso Cake with Fudge Icing
Fregolotta (Italian Crumb Cake)
Three-Tiered Cookie Plate: Frosted Brownies, The Queen’s Shortbread, Lemon Bars
Bambi’s Chocolate Chip Cookies
See’s Candies
 
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​​As you think about Thanksgiving with your family this month, you are welcome to include any of the items from our memorial menu along with your traditional family meal. You will find Isaac’s Roasted Tomato Salsa in my August 2019 blog on this website, Homemade Vanilla Custard for the Peach and Raspberry Trifle in my May 2020 blog, Blackberry Cobbler with Almond Streusel Topping in my August 2020 blog and Fregolotta (Italian Crumb Cake) in my July 2018 blog.
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​On Thanksgiving night,
The full moon hangs over the
Sea like an apple.


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​Our website provides another treasure trove of menus and ideas for autumn tea parties and feasts and for large gatherings now that it is safe for us to celebrate in family groups. If you are planning ahead to long-postponed spring and summer get-togethers, some of our menus also feature grocery lists and planning guides. Our “June Wedding Reception Tea” includes the menu, lists and planning guides for a home-generated reception for fifty guests. You might also find “Afternoon Tea for a Large Group” a helpful resource. And finally, our “August Family Reunion Tea” is filled with ideas for feeding the family with a variety of menu options, including North American food, Scandinavian food, Middle Eastern cuisine and a Kosher menu.
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​​Last Thanksgiving, we
Wore masks just to deliver
Pumpkin Bread next door.


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​Though the last two years have been hard for all of us, we invite you to celebrate with us once again, the joy of family, the joy of food, the joy of Afternoon Tea. And a happy Thanksgiving to you all!

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  • About/Blog
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    • Contact Us
  • The Tea Book
    • The Road Back to Civilization
    • A Brief History of Tea
    • Philosophy of Tea >
      • Harmony
      • Humility
      • Respect
      • Creativity
    • Guidelines for the Host/Hostess >
      • Gathering and Greeting
      • Sharing Stories
      • Sharing Food
      • Sending the Guests Home
    • Guidelines for the Guest >
      • Respect Your Hostess/Host
      • Bring a Gift if You Wish
      • Practice Humility
      • Monitor Your Conversation
      • Arrive with a Grateful Attitude
      • Help if Help is Needed
      • Do Not Criticize
      • Leave Gracefully
      • Send a Thank You Note
    • A Checklist for Planning a Tea Party
    • Teas of the World and How to Make Tea >
      • A Sampling of Teas
      • Herbal Teas and Tisanes
      • How to Make Tea
      • Making Iced Tea
      • Tea Concentrate
      • Brewing Tea for a Crowd
    • Tea Utensils and Accessories >
      • Tea Kettle
      • Tea Pot
      • Tea Cozy
      • Teacups
      • Plates
      • Silverware
      • Teacart
      • Tea Strainer
      • Tea Infuser
      • Three-Tiered Server
      • Cream Pitcher and Sugar Bowl
      • Cake Pedestal
      • Trifle Bowl
      • Jam Pots
      • Serving Dishes, Platters, and Trays
      • Silver Tea Set or Silver Tray
      • Linens
      • Kitchen Equipment for Food Preparation
    • Tea Menu Basics >
      • Sandwiches and Savories
      • Savory Spreads and Dips
      • Scones and Tea Breads >
        • About Lemons
    • Afternoon Tea and the Four Seasons >
      • A Spring Tea
      • An Outdoor Summer Tea
      • An Autumn Afternoon Tea
      • A Winter Afternoon Tea
    • A Calendar of Tea Parties >
      • January: A Japanese New Year’s Tea
      • February: A Valentine’s Day Tea
      • March: A St. Patrick’s Day Irish Tea
      • April: An Easter Tea
      • May: A Mother’s Day Tea
      • June: A Wedding Reception Tea >
        • Lemon Yogurt Wedding Cake
      • July: A Picnic Tea
      • August: A Family Reunion Tea >
        • A North American Family Reunion Tea
        • An Eastern Mediterranean Family Reunion Tea
        • A Kosher Family Reunion Tea
        • A Scandinavian Family Reunion Tea
      • September: An Ozark Farm Harvest Tea
      • October: A Tea to Honor Our Ancestors (Dia de los Muertos)
      • November: A Post Thanksgiving Tea
      • December: A Christmas Tea >
        • In Defense of Fruitcake: Fruitcakes and Candied Fruit
    • A World of Tea Parties >
      • A Chinese Dim Sum Tea
      • A Portuguese Tea
      • A Classic British Afternoon Tea
      • An Indian Chai Party
      • A California Tea
      • A Hawaiian Tea
      • An Italian Tea
      • An American Southern Tea
      • A Russian Tea
      • A French Afternoon Tea
      • A Kosher Tea with Tradional Jewish Foods
    • Afternoon Tea for Special Occasions >
      • An Afternoon Tea for Children
      • A Tea for Our Elders
      • A Honey Bee Tea in the Garden
      • An Urban Tea on the Go
      • Tea for One
      • Afternoon Tea for a Large Group
      • A Vegan Tea
      • A Rose Tea
  • Purchase Recipes
  • Resources
    • Bibliography and Resources
    • Menu and Recipe Index
    • Commercial Food Products
    • Glossary